Being a freelancer and single mom
I’ve wanted to write this post for a while now but I guess because this is so close to my heart it was actually hard to put into words how I feel about this topic. Everyone has their little set backs and doubts. Someone might think that moving to a small town would hinder their ability to be an artist as there wont be as much education as there would be in the bigger cities like New York or LA. Well my doubt was that I would not be able to further myself in artistry once I had my son. He came as a surprise but there was never a doubt in my mind that he happened for a reason as everything that I believe in happens. I was working two jobs at the time at Starbucks and David Yurman when I had found out. i think I was still in school as well I ended up leaving because I couldn’t do everything and be pregnant at the same time. I had kept both jobs until 6 days before my delivery and I was reading up on everything I could about freelancing, makeup, and how to get out there. I had never done makeup on anyone other than myself so I decided to pair up with a friend of mine to create a Free Hair and Makeup event at my apartment to see how I could do. I had a very minimum kit with all the Fit Me foundations in all shades, a coastal scents eyeshadow palette, brushes from Sephora, and a blush/contour/highlight palette from BH.
Surprisingly I actually had quite a few girls RSVP to the event for either a hair cut/style with Karina or a makeover with myself. I also invited two friend photographers to take photos of the event as well as any portfolio photos I could get my hands on. I had every type of ethnicity show up. This was a true test on how I could do as everyone had appointments so I had to color match, do a full face and get their headshots in before the next girl. Amanda had showed up with lights, a background and her DSLR camera and immediately set the environment to professional. I rearranged the living room to have a seating area and working area for both artists and snacks. It was nothing short of successful. I was able to get 4 head shots of different skin tones and everyone was happy, even if they didn’t I asked for recommendations as every girl that came to visit did their own makeup a certain way. It was a learning experience as well as an eye opener that with the support of my friends and family even with a new baby (he was born and out the belly at the time) that I could figure out a way around the hectic schedule to set up an event that was both a learning experience but also professional.
Amanda so kindly edited the photos for me and I got started on searching on godaddy for a webpage name as well as creating a template on wix.com. I wish I would have saved a screenshot of how my first website looked, it would have definitely showed how much I have grown. Comparing my first photos to my photos now is a huge difference and I am still working with Amanda very closely. Not only is she my photographer, business partner, marketing and contracting adviser but she has become one of my very best friends. We work so well together and balance each other so well especially when we set ourselves back with our doubts. If she hadn’t given me the chance and showed me the kindness of showing up to a free event to do not only event photography but portfolio work I don’t know where I would be today. She got me started and guided me through the freelance life as she has been freelancing for years.
I cannot forget my parents as well as they have been HUGE supporters in both my freelance career as well as with my son. I can always depend on them to help me arrange things so that I can do my work but my son will be in good hands. Whether its just picking him up from daycare or actually watching him for a full day while I tiptoe out of my apartment at 4am to meet up with Nella to travel to a wedding, I know I can always count on them. The biggest challenge of course will be trying to rearrange things because you cant take every gig as much as you would like to, you cant fly to every workshop or spend x amount of days away from your home when you are a mother. There is another person who is depending on you to care for them and help them every step of the way. I am so thankful to my parents, to my friends, my sons father and even to my current job in allowing me to adjust to the life of a parent and still be able to do my freelance work. You need the support and love to be able to work in any career path when it comes to being a parent. As long as you know that you can figure out everything and when its meant to be , it will be, then you can do whatever you set your mind to. Know that everyone is here to support you , even if not an immediate member in your life. Collaborate! Work hard! Challenge yourself! You will be ok. Thank you for reading my blog I love you all ❤